I’ve known so many mothers over the years who have shared with me that they just wish they had one thing.
The job of motherhood is hard enough when life is “ordinary” and “normal”. We need friends even then. As we discussed in last week’s post on Rest, hanging around other moms, just for fun, is therapeutic. Whether we’re in an easy phase or a rough spot in life, one thing is for sure. We all need our friends.
God intended for us to have friends. They’re great for lots of things like:
- laughing with and enjoying life together. A cheerful heart is good medicine…(Proverbs 17:22)
- crying together. Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. (Romans 12:15)
- bearing each other’s burdens. Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. (Galatians 6:2)
I sometimes feel like I don’t have time to “be” with my friends, what with chasing seven boys and all, but I do manage somehow to stay connected to my best friends. One way or another.
- I have one really great friend who is like a sister to me, that I ONLY talk to on Facebook, seeing how she’s moved to another continent recently.
- My sister lives three to four hours from me, and we communicate mostly by phone. She gets special privileges, talking to me on the phone, that is…..since I have weird-social-phone-lady-syndrome, plus a lot of kids.
- I have other friends that I text back and forth with….mostly updating each other on the current health status of our children.
- I email back and forth with another special friend every once in a while.
- I message back and forth with a couple of other moms on Facebook now and then, but see them only occasionally.
- And there are other moms that I see here and there, at random social gatherings, but rarely talk to them online.
And while each of these relationships is different, they are all very important to me. Each of these ladies serve a purpose in my life as I have deliberately chosen to associate with them as they are uplifting, encouraging and just wonderful people.
That all sounds easy enough, but still so many moms have asked me over the years just HOW to find friendships in the first place. I know it’s easier for some personality types than others, but the basic idea is this: A man that hath friends must show himself friendly…..(Proverbs 18:24) So get out there and make friends. Be friendly first. 🙂 Yes, you need to choose your friends wisely (“The righteous choose their friends carefully”…Proverbs 12:26), but don’t be intimidated.
Now, having said all that, I will never discount the truth that Your Heavenly Father will always be your closest Friend and Confidant. Psalm 25:14 “The LORD confides in those who fear him; he makes his covenant known to them.”
And your husband should be your very best friend. 🙂 Matthew 19:4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
What about you? How do you stay connected to your friends? Do you struggle with a need for companionship?
To catch up, click here for previous weeks’ posts:
- What Moms Need: Week 1 – GOD
- What Moms Need: Week 2 – Perspective
- What Moms Need: Week 3 – Encouragement
- What Moms Need: Week 4 – Rest