September 20, 2017

What Moms Need: Week 26 – Time

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We don’t think about how much we need time, as moms.  We don’t think about it because we’re too busy living, too busy planning, too busy dreaming, too busy worrying….and all those other things that moms do.

And we rarely stop and think….or let alone, have the conversation…..that moms sometimes need to reflect on the fact that there’s a season for everything.

 There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under the heavens…  Ecclesiastes 3:1

We get down, often thinking (especially young, new moms) that we’ve lost ourselves in motherhood, that we’ve somehow disappeared under the mountainous piles we call our life now.  We start to lose hope on dreams that once lit us up so brightly.  We think we should just “let that go and face reality now.”  That “that” is over.  For many moms, these thoughts can be depressing.  These thoughts can cause us to dwell on what we do NOT have instead of what we do.  They can cause us to feel lonely, separated, and like we’re “missing out.”

But nothing could be further from the truth.

The marathon of motherhood is such a special season of life.  No amount of training beforehand could have prepared you for what you’re enduring now.  This day after day of hitting the ground running is hard.  It’s grueling.  It’s intense.

Some days you have to slow down.  Way down.

Some days you’re good at just running at a good speed, enjoying the journey, appreciating the scenery.

Some days you’re on top of your game and you get a bit ahead, and it feels great.

Some days you even think you’re figuring out this whole race.  You’re pretty accustomed to the twists and turns and have come to expect them.  Sore feet pretty much don’t bother you anymore.  There are callouses in the right places, and you could almost run barefoot even….

You’ve surrounded yourself with other moms and it’s become fun, and for some veteran moms, the finish line is in sight.  You’re proud.  Exhilarated.  Teary-eyed and in awe that with God’s help, you made it.  And your little one is about to embark on their own voyage in life.

This particular race – this season of motherhood – has been run.

And it hits you.

There’s another race after this one.  A different one.  A different season of life awaits.

A new time has come.  One that welcomes you to do things that you once thought you let die inside of you.  Those dreams.  Those hobbies (that perhaps you did keep alive somehow.)

You realize now that there was no need for you to be upset, or impatient, or to have lost hope in doing those “other things” that God placed in your heart so long ago.  They didn’t have to be fretted over.  They didn’t have to be thrown out.  You realize you’ve  just run the most important marathon of all, that of raising your children for the Lord.   And maybe those ideas, hopes and dreams have changed a little bit over the years, but now that you have more of a chance to do them, you realize that all you needed was a little time.

Really.  A little time.  Because it was just yesterday that he was born.  And now he’s off to college?

You look back, sigh, and smile.

Seasons change.  Boy, do they change so quickly.

And with time, each season affords new opportunities of its own.  New challenges, time for different things, new races.

You look down and see…..you’ll need a new pair of race shoes, as it’s clear that mile after mile, your time has been well spent.

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Comments

  1. Such a great post. Thank you for the reminder that at some point in the not too distant future I will miss the sense of chaos that comes with raising 3 young children. I am truly where I am supposed to be right now and need to focus more on finding the joy here and now instead of waiting for that day when things will be more calm.

  2. What a timely post! Just yesterday I was looking frustrated at my messy house, one sick child (feeling behind in her schooling), one child in the midst of potty training, a one year old who is newly walking and into everything, and being 25 weeks pregnant with #4 wondering where my life went. It was then that it hit me…everything goes into these little ones that God has entrusted to me. When I was working and pursuing other things before my kiddos came, I poured myself and my time into those things. Now it is my kids. And later, I will be moving on to the next job God has for me. I think that one of the things God is trying to teach me right now is contentment for where I am and what I am doing. Thank you for the reminder.

  3. This post was so needed for this mama right now. I have 3 little ones (all boys) and one on the way and sometimes I get so overwhelmed…and frustrated. And sometimes I respond in ways I’m not proud of. It’s so important to look at the big picture and realize that one day they will be gone and my house will be empty and I’ll miss this time when they’re little. Thank you for putting things in perspective today. I have a feeling I will be coming back to read this post many times in the coming years. 🙂

  4. Brandy, thank you for this post. This along with others like Self-Control have been just what I needed to hear right now. Look forward to following you.

  5. I am so glad I’ve found your blog! (Ironically, it was through a picture I saw on pinterest of healthy snacks.) I have 4 kids, 3 of them boys and am in my 4th year of homeschooling, 3rd year of following a classical (at least somewhat) method. I’ve been looking for someone to give me some inspiration who is also doing a similar method to me, and has boys! Boy, howdy, do you have boys! What a blessing!!

    Tonight, I will be trying to figure out what you do for lunches, as my eldest (8) has become particular about his lunch and decided he doesn’t like sandwiches at all, but I can afford to spend even more time in the kitchen! 🙂

  6. Stephanie says:

    Beautifully said.

  7. I love your blog! We have kindred spirits! Some of your very words in your posts sound a lot like words I say when it comes to your heart, homeschooling, and God’s plan.
    Bless you! Will be following your posts! Would love for you to see mine on homeschooling and God’s word. 🙂

  8. Wow, this was such a deep post that I could not have expressed better. I am that young mom, actually I had my son when I just turned 20 and now I’m 24. Over the past four years I have had those those depressing thoughts that I never got to get out in the real world and live my life.

    Those thoughts turned into “ok, it’s time to face reality and not dwell in the past” and finally, lately… they have emerged into thoughts of like you said, running a marathon. I’m going to do my best and while it might be tiring and I might have to stop a few times along the way, it’s going to be the best race I’ve ever ran.

    • Emily, I just wanted you to know that your comment here really meant a lot to me. You get the entire point of this blog. Completely and exactly. Thank you! ~Brandy

  9. Wow. I am always amazed with timing. It felt like you were writing to me;) I am on the “eve” of a new season. My “baby” will start school full time in the fall and so will I. I am starting the application process to return to elementary teaching. I feel the calling, but I also feel some worry. How will I do it all? What about those things I thought I would get to, but haven’t yet? My husband is currently training for a marathon. He says you have to run slowly to learn how to run quickly. That saying echos in my heart constantly right now, and will guide me as the season changes. I will run slowly, by taking it one day at a time. I will trust Jesus will put me exactly where I need to be. And, when the timing is right, I will run quickly! 😉

  10. What a great post! I have definitely felt this way on more than one occasion. It took me a long time to become a mom and even then it was through the gift of adoption. Time passes in a blink of an eye and while I definitely can’t do everything I used to do before kids, I know it’s a season of life. When I find myself getting too overwhelmed or frustrated with my circumstances, I know that it is time for me to have a tiny break. And by break, I mean at least an hour to myself every now and then to regroup and take a deep breath. I come back energized and ready to tackle life with my two monkeys. Luckily, I have a husband who realizes that I need this time to be a better wife and mom.

  11. Thank you so much for this. I gave birth to my son at 20 and he is about to hit 16. I have been feeling so burnt out, under appreciated and just tired lately. Today brought me to tears. Your post is a reminder that the season I am in is almost over. I only have 3 years left until he flies to coup and constantly wish that time would slow down or stand still. My baby is almost a man. Despite the burn out I’m feeling now, deep down, I know I will have wished for more time when he’s off being his own adult. Thanking the Lord tonight for pointing me in your direction. I needed to hear this.

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