Do you ever feel so overwhelmed as a mother that you don’t even know what it is that you need?
Are you ever so lost, tired, buried underneath the stuff of life with all its complexities that you can’t even think of where to start, how to begin to climb out?
As a mom, do you ever just feel like you need a hand UP?
Throughout the journey of motherhood, there are often seasons in which we feel like this. Maybe we don’t admit it to others, out of fear for what someone might think of us. But it’s undeniable that sometimes, as moms, we simply need a hand to reach out to us, to lift us up, to encourage us, to lead us.
Moms need leadership. Good moms. Great moms. Young moms. Experienced moms. It doesn’t matter where you are in life’s journey; if you want to be a good follower (or leader for that matter), then you must follow a wise leader. In everyone’s journey, they have somebody following them, and they are following someone. It’s important to choose your leaders carefully.
Sometimes we choose our leaders accidentally. We follow whoever is funny. Whoever makes us feel good. Whatever parenting trend sounds good. We sometimes try and do what worked for someone else just because it worked for them. We follow them for the wrong reasons, not questioning their leadership’s effect on our lives, not evaluating whether or not they are biblical leaders to us or our families. Not considering the impact they are having on our children because of our choice (unintentional or not) to follow them.
Where should moms look for godly leadership?
“The final test of a leader is that he leaves behind in other people the convictions and the will to carry on.” – Walter Lippmann
There is no easy answer here, and for sure, this will be different for every person. But here is a starting place for moms who are seeking to follow biblical leadership for themselves, for their homes, and for their families.
- Begin by praying. Ask God to lead you first. Invite Him, first and foremost, to be your Shepherd.
- If you’re married, follow the leadership of your husband. Pray for your husband. Pray for God to be his leader, that your husband would be sensitive to the leadership of God. Pray for your husband to take his godly role as leader of your home and family. Respect your husband, submit to his position as your God-given leader, and help him. This isn’t always easy. But it’s at the heart of close-knit, joy-filled families and homes.
- Be careful of who you choose to follow. Ask God to show you who you may be following that He would not have you to be. Look for a godly pastor (with your husband), godly mentors, women who are wise, who follow the Lord’s leadership, who put a high priority on godly leadership themselves. Rest assured, they are following someone of wise counsel. Godly leaders (mentors) will encourage you. They will speak life into the dark places of your heart when you need it most. They will challenge you. They will call you onward and upward. They will share their experience with you, their wisdom, their understanding. Leaders will always pull you UP. They will always point you to LIGHT and LIFE.
“We cannot hold a torch to light another’s path without brightening our own.” – Ben Sweetland
“A leader is one who sees more than others see, who sees farther than others see, and who sees before others see.” – Leroy Eims
To read all posts in the series, What Moms Need, click here.
Who are you following?