by Contributing Writer, Sarah Outlaw
Anger. It comes in many shapes and forms and manifests itself in many different ways. It is a toxin much worse than artificial coloring, MSG or chlorine. It poisons the soul.
Why is a food blogger writing about anger? Because this food blogger struggles with it big time in her own life! It is my main emotion. Even as a child, I was angry. I would get hurt and not cry. I would get angry. Angry at the thing that hurt me. Angry at my Mom or Dad for “letting” me get hurt. Angry that I was embarrassed. Just angry.
As an adult, anger manifests itself differently. It may not be a visible temper tantrum or a hole through the wall where a fist went through. It can be more subtle.
“A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.” Proverbs 29:11
It’s a dirty look. A harsh word. An annoyed tone of voice. Yelling at your children. A huff and a puff. Rolling of the eyes. A turning of your back on someone. Ignoring a family member when they come to visit you. Giving your spouse (or anyone else) “the silent treatment”.
All these manifestations of anger are so toxic that they can literally ruin your life and your relationships.
It’s time to detox!
“In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. He who has been stealing must steal no longer, but must work, doing something useful with his own hands, that he may have something to share with those in need. Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.” Ephesians 26-31
First and foremost, Pray. Search your heart and recognize that you have this issue in your life and ask God for help. Ask for clarity and wisdom and for the strength to change. Search the scriptures for verses on anger. There are many!
Practice gratitude. If you are busy being thankful for everything you won’t have time to be angry! Seems pretty simple but it works! A peaceful home is worth the effort.
Look for environmental triggers. Determine if your anger is worse when you are hungry, tired, on your monthly cycle, during a full moon or in certain seasons. Perhaps it is linked to a hormone or nutritional imbalance, adrenal fatigue, food sensitivity or allergies. These are all legitimate triggers and should be ruled out by seeing a holistic health practitioner.
Seek help. You may need to get help from a counselor to help you work through this issue. Call your local church to put you in touch with someone that can offer you sound Biblical wisdom to help you overcome your anger. Don’t be embarrassed about it. Just get help.
My prayer for you is that this post will encourage you to search your heart and root out anger in the New Year.