We don’t know the exact day we met, because we didn’t realize at the time that we were making history, but this week, twenty years ago, I met my husband.
It’s hard to believe it’s really been that long. But on the other hand, a lot of life has happened in those twenty years.
It took us a while to finally realize we were really supposed to be together. And once we did, we were both very vocal about our desires to not be one of those “on again/off again” type couples. We knew them. We saw those struggles. We had both watched our parents go through painful divorces.
We decided that we were in or out.
We were both in. And that was it.
We were together as much as possible from the time I was 18 until the day we said “I do” two years later.
We were married at 20 and 21, for better or for worse.
We’ve seen a lot of good times. And we’ve seen some rough times too.
No, it’s not always easy. I’m not that girl he met. He’s no longer that boy I fell in love with.
We’re older, wiser. Sometimes crankier, more opinionated, and less forgiving.
Sometimes the things that I once loved about him make me want to scream.
And sometimes I wonder how he can love me. How he can put up with this person I’ve turned into. This woman whose hair is usually in a pile, with remnants of smeared make-up from yesterday on her face. This woman who cooks too much and doesn’t do enough dishes. Who spends more time reading books to and teaching her children than she spends with him. Who talks about blogging WAY too much.
I make lists of lists. He is spontaneous.
He likes to party. I want to plan.
I make menus and grocery lists. He throws stuff into the cart as they appeal to him.
How? How can we possibly be soul-mates? Meant for each other?
How can we possibly stay together til death do us part?
We can…..because we love each other.
And on the days when that is hard, we DECIDE to love each other anyway. Because we’re both in.
Twenty years later.
I’m so thankful for my husband, for our commitment to one another, for God putting us together, for His perfect plan…..