November 23, 2017

Making Home a Haven: It’s a Priority

I was almost completely absent from this blog last week.  Well, with the minor exceptions of the delicious plum jam and gluten-free chocolate chip cookie pie recipes that I shared.  You may realize by now that I can often share recipes because, after all, I do cook every day, and also because they’re fun for me and require little to no deep thinking.

Making Home a Haven Has to Be a Priority.

I’d begun a series on Making Home a Haven, one which I fully intend to keep discussing with you all until I feel we’ve at least touched the basics of that humongous category.  But I sort of checked out last week, and not on purpose.  There are these priorities I have that just keep me doing the things that are at the top of the list.  Day after day.  Over and over.  Yes, things like diapers and dishes, laundry and Legos, and stuff like cooking and cleaning, which is so monotonously and so monstrously a part of motherhood.  But in doing that stuff, in tending to those little details of my family’s life, I’ve been busy crafting and molding and keeping our home.

To be completely honest, and I know you’ve read this before both here and at other mom blogs,  there are many days I feel I just have too much on my plate.  Too much to eat, not a big enough fork, not enough time in the world.  And when this happens, I just have to let it go.  I just have to trust God.  Because I know my priorities.  They were set a long time ago.  And God and I have this special agreement that if anything gets scratched off the list, it’s #4 and on down.  Because my personal priority list looks exactly like this:

  1. God
  2. My husband/marriage
  3. My children/our family unit/our home
  4. My ministry to others as a communicator/encourager
  5. Anything else

If I’ve disappointed you, I sincerely apologize.  But with eight sons, and a very real-life husband, my time is well spent investing in them, either directly, as a group, or simply in making this home a haven.  And in the words of someone wise, I’m choosing to “do as little as possible as well as possible” in the hopes that the most important things are done thoroughly and completely.

I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the Truth.  3 John 1:4

Have you outlined your top priorities in your life?


  1. Your blog posts are an encouragement to me. I don’t care how often they occur! Thanks for all the wonderful recipes too- I make one of your granola bar recipes weekly! I love God, my family and cooking too, so I love your blog!

  2. Your post goes in line with a book I just started, “The 10 Habits of Happy Mothers” by Meg Meeker!

  3. Wonderful post….one that I think most moms understand. I am often MIA on my blog, but for all the same reasons you share here. It’s such a blessing to be an encouragement to others, but our home…and all that home encompasses…comes first! 🙂

  4. I think you are pretty amazing. I don’t care of you blog every day, once a week or once a month. You always have great things to share!

  5. I truly appreciate your list & that your husband is ahead of the rest of your family. I do not have children yet, but this is how I feel it must be if we ever decide to walk down that road. Thank you for your thoughts! 🙂

  6. I love reading your blog regardless of how often you post. I always learn something and I appreciate that in making your home the priority you are living what you are teaching. Thanks for your ministry. 🙂

  7. That is exactly my priority list also! But being a Pastors wife, I find it very difficult at times balancing ministry with the other top priorities. That is a challenge for me. Being a blessing and example to my 3 (soon to be 4) little ones and being a blessing and serving people in our church. I look forward to reading more of your blogs whenever you have time to update them. 🙂 thank you for being a blessing!

  8. I have just begun reading your blog (as I began the 42 Days to Fit challenge last week). 🙂 As a homeschool mom of 5 littles myself, I can only imagine the pull in a thousand directions you must feel with a blog to maintain in addition to it all. How encouraging to see you keep your priorities in line. I have absolutely loved everything I have read on the blog. So I agree with the other commenters in saying that it doesn’t matter how many times you blog. God will honor your committment to keeping “first things first” no doubt. Thanks for keeping it real! 🙂

  9. Amen, sister! I love to read this! Keep on doing the Lord’s Work! Too many moms fill up their schedules with the wrong time-fillers … you are investing in the eternal. Hugs!

  10. Thank you so much for sharing. I totally believe that when we honor God,He provides all we need. Too often I let the to-do list drain me. I only half the kids you do…ages8, 6, 2, and 4 month old baby. Although it is exhausting, I would not trade it for anything. Looking forward to trying out some of your recipes.

  11. I just want to echo what has been said in all the other comments. I’m fairly new to your blog, but your posts have spoken to me in a profound way. So, stick with your priorities and blog when you can. We all love updates, but we understand life comes first!

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