November 17, 2017

Keeping My Children’s Hearts Starts In My Own

Over the past couple of weeks, as I’ve anticipated writing on this crucial subject of keeping our children’s hearts, I’ve contemplated and prayed about just where to start.  For a while I felt that keeping our children’s hearts really started with perspective.  After all, we need to see ourselves as the mothers God has appointed us to be, and we need to value our children as the gifts God has given to us.

But I was wrong.  It’s deeper than that.

The starting point, the place where it all begins, the place where all life stems from in our journey as mothers, is in our own hearts.  Before we have the right mental perspective, our own heart attitude must be right.

So before we start delving into the details of pouring our lives into our children, we have to begin at the beginning – our own hearts.

You’ve heard the airplane analogy before, I’m sure.  In the event of an emergency, place your own oxygen mask on your face first, THEN tend to your children’s?  It’s sort of like that.  I’m better equipped to see to my children’s needs if my own lifeline is secure first.  I’m less stressed in the moments of challenge, less fearful, less intimidated, less taxed, and so on.  So the place to begin, the first place I should tend to if I’m wanting to be my children’s heartkeeper is ultimately, my own heart.

Tending to My Own Heart

Does my heart feel light?  Heavily burdened?  Do I allow myself to suffer with guilt as a mother?  Do I worry needlessly?

Jesus said, “Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest.  Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” Matthew  11: 28, 29

Who has my heart?

Have I allowed Jesus to truly reign in my heart as My King?  My Saviour?  My Lord?

Jesus said, “I am the way, the truth, and the life.  No one comes to the Father except through me.”  John 14:6 

Do I Love the LORD my God with all my heart and with all my soul and with all my strength?  Deuteronomy 6:5

Have I allowed God to transform my heart so that my words, actions, and habits reflect my relationship with Him?

Jesus said, “Out of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks.”  Matthew 12:34

“Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is–his good, pleasing and perfect will.”  Romans 12:2

Do I see the fruit of the Holy Spirit at work in my own heart, in my own life?

Are the good fruits that I am wanting to cultivate in my own children’s lives evident in mine first?

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.” Galatians 5:22, 23

I hope you’ll join us each week as we continue on this journey together.  Want to share your thoughts?  Please leave a comment.


  1. Thank you for this encouragement today.

  2. Oh… such a good word. Thanks for the reminder.

  3. Each day I enjoy your blog more and more. Your words and encouragement are always so timely for me, you are such a blessing. Thank you

  4. Thank you for the encouragement.. These are the things you know to do but struggle to put into practice.. Praying for the new little to come soon….

  5. Thank you so much for this! It was just what I needed at just the right time!

  6. Love the questions!! 🙂

  7. Thank you for this wonderful series! This post particularly spoke to my heart. Your site has been such a huge encouragement to me! I have been praying a lot on this topic and am faithful the Lord will see me to a place in my motherhood to better lead my children every day:)

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