Sometimes it’s overwhelming. The thought of raising eight sons to be godly men.
And it all starts the moment they’re born. From the second they’re placed on my chest to be nurtured and loved, til the moment they leave our home to start their own family with their wife, the pressure. is. on.
If you’ve read much on this blog at all, you probably know how seriously I take the job of raising these boys into men. Most days I remember how precious and sacred my work is. How important. How significant my impact, my contribution to the world in raising boys into good, God-fearing, strong men. But some days I must remind myself, that amidst all the dishes and laundry and cooking and cleaning and sheets and diapers and football this and soccer that, there is deeper purpose.
Boys into men.
And the job is done one day at a time.
Today is a new day. What I invest today will result in a greater return in future generations. And so?
I can do it. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. (Philippians 4:13) I’m their teacher. And it’s my responsibility (along with their father, for certain), to teach them well. Not only about
- metamorphosis and mitosis
- synecdoche and semi-colons
- triangles and trigonometry
- fire safety and The Fertile Crescent
to name only a few…
10 Tips for Training Boys Into Men
- Bring them up in the fear and admonition of the Lord. See Ephesians 6: 1-4.
- Embrace and affirm their boyhood. Do not try to train a boy to embrace feminine responsibilities. It’s against their design.
- Accept that boys learn differently from girls, that they’re wired differently, and that this IS by intelligent design.
- Allow boys to learn how they learn best. Adapt as needed. They learn their math facts best while rolling around under the table? So be it.
- Boys are born explorers. Give them a shovel.
- Boys are born hunters. Send them with Dad and let them hunt!
- Boys are born fishermen. Teach them to fish, then let them fish.
- Boys are born to be warriors. Brothers will fight. A certain amount of tolerance helps a lot. They’re learning to sort out differences, to make peace, to recognize strengths and weaknesses, to establish their role as defender, protector, and sometimes, to fight for justice.
- Learners are leaders. Teach them to be learners, to always seek to do what is right, and you’ve given them a lifelong tool. (Proverbs 21:3) You’ve given their wife a man.
- Mothers, though a tear may fall, bravely surrender your sons to be taught at their father’s side. Let them leave with Dad to climb the hill, start the fire, to shoot dinner, to build the house, and to defend and protect. When they come in, affirm their manhood with words of thanks and admiration, draw them a hot bath, and give them a hot plate of food.
I’ll write an update in a decade or so, to let you know how we did.
Til then, I’ll be busy. Working on raising boys into men.
Yesterday a baby. Today a boy. Tomorrow a man.
By his grace,