When I received an email asking if I’d be interested in reviewing Crystal’s e-book, 21 Days to a More Disciplined Life, it was an instant yes.
I’ve been alluding to it here and there, and certainly on Facebook, that I’ve hit a sort of burn-out. The cursor pauses to harass me with its accusatory blinking. “Are you REALLY going to publish this, Brandy?” it says.
Wow, so much to say. And at risk of interrupting said book review to divulge personal real-life stuff, I’m going to say this. Going from 7 boys to 8 boys in just 19 months was a big jump for me. It threw me for a loop, okay? Now, I can hear some of you chuckling (in my head), and saying, “What!?! You were just now thrown for a loop at the birth of the 8th child?” Or….”It took EIGHT boys to finally rattle your cage, Brandy?”
Okay, so there are a whole lot of messy details to dig through here, and honestly, I’m not quite ready to publish what I’ve been processing internally, but can I just tell you that I’ve been living in survival mode for about, oh, 8 months now?
You’re not familiar with “Mom Burn-Out”?
Well, it’s pretty much when you’ve gotten so sick of living in survival mode that you’re just downright cranky and you take personal offense to the fork who hatefully stabbed you in the finger when you were loading the cotton-pickin’ dishwasher for the umpteenth time that day because no one else flippin’ cares and you’re all alone and doomed to living in chaos and piles and you resent anyone who remotely has any fun because you never get to but who needs fun anyway if you’re so tired you can’t even see straight and by the way, I need some coffee but we’re out and isn’t. that. just. great.
You caught all that right?
I talked about it here briefly, but can I just tell you, that there is no perfect solution. No magic bullet. There will never be The Complete Guide to Perfecting Homemaking because it doesn’t exist.
I know this probably sounds like the worst sales pitch ever, but trust me, I’m getting to my point here.
And the point is that the problem isn’t really the stuff all around me. Sure, we have too many clothes and dishes and need to purge so that I have less to process. Sure, we could streamline our chorelist a little and reduce privileges and crank it up a notch on teaching responsibility, and yeah….That would definitely affect the bottom line here. My level of burn-out would reflect said changes.
For a while. Until all those things wore off.
Then we’d be back at it again. Or I would be back at it again. At the place where I am now. Trying to figure out how to bail myself out of this water-logged vessel I’m in, no pail in sight.
Is it me and my approach? Or is it this water?
Because last I checked, I still feel like I’m shoveling snow in a blizzard every day. Trust me, you do NOT want to come over here and help me.
The point is this: I need more self-discipline.
I know the things that I need to be doing, but I spend so much time with shovel in hand, it seems I can’t ever make it to the “other stuff” that Crystal talks about us moms getting to do. No, I’m not talking about “girls night out”. I’m talking about taking the next step in my business. The next home management project that would make our lovely home more inviting and homey. I’m talking about making time to do things that are important to me like training for my very first marathon. Yeah, I want to do that. But no. It’s not on the list because I know I’m too “in the weeds” right now to carve out that kind of time to make that commitment.
Yeah, I get the big picture, folks. This blog is named The Marathon Mom for the reason that I know what it takes to stay committed to raising these kiddos. So you bet your boots that tackling a subject as ugly as Mom Burn-Out belongs right here.
Crystal’s book, 21 Days to a More Disciplined Life may not have all the answers to pulling myself (or yourself) up by the bootstraps and getting going again, but it DOES motivate me to take the next steps toward a more productive, organized and disciplined life.
I’ve already decided on my Mega Project for the 21 days, and I will be sharing more about it soon.
In the meantime, I want to encourage you to buy the e-book and start tomorrow. For the rest of today (Thursday) the book is only $.99!
Maybe you’re like me. Maybe you chase 8 boys around all day, shuffling them to and from school, church, football, Costco, and then cooking, cleaning, homeschooling, nursing, and everything else. Maybe you are a new mom with only one or two wee ones. You know what? I remember being SO overwhelmed with only two. Wherever you are in your journey, this book can definitely bless you.
Crystal is graciously giving away FIVE copies to five readers here. Enter to win your copy below!
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